Spirituality does not mean that everything works out perfectly.
New Age Gurus make the mistake of substituting happiness and success for spiritual development.
Spiritual development consists of the opening of the heart and the nurturing of the caring and compassionate feelings which lead to actions on behalf of others.
This does not always mean that things work out for us.
It quite often means trouble and inconvenience.
It may make us feel uncomfortable.
Certainly it will challenge our comfort zone.
For Jesus it led to the cross.
So, rather than judging people by how well their lives are going, we should look to the development of the heart and its attendant compassionate actions.
There may be frustrations, even pain, but opening your heart to others is the key to spiritual development.
This is enlightenment.